There is a Spanish saying, “No hay rosa sin espinas.” The translation is, “There are no roses without thorns. Life is rampant with contradictions. Life, death, light, dark, good, evil, ancient, modern, ying, and yang, are the opposite sides of the same coin. Many believe our purpose is to find happiness, become rich, or attain enlightenment. But what if the actual reason is to experience and appreciate everything the world offers? Do we not welcome the warmth of the summer sun after the frigid temperatures of winter? Drought sweetens a thunderstorm, and navigating rough waters heightens the joy of smooth sailing.
There is evidence suggesting when we face and solve our dilemmas, we end up improving our existence. You know the adage, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Weightlifting tones muscles, solving problems strengthens confidence. Devising creative solutions keeps your mind sharp and amplifies your sense of achievement. When we look at difficulties in a unique light, we can see them as opportunities. They are the catalysts of growth. Hard times are a reminder to live to the fullest, experiencing the exhilaration of the highest highs and even the despair of the lowest lows.
It also increases your compassion for others. You can’t walk in someone else’s shoes, but your path may have exposed you to similar situations, which enhances your empathy. Empathy produces better people. Shared experiences unite humans in a common cause, strengthen the bonds between us, and remind us we are not alone. We begin by developing closer relationships with family and friends. We reach out to help a stranger who becomes a new friend. The byproduct of surviving personal difficulties is we forge a path and create a way forward for those who follow. That is where we find joy.
Will you embrace today’s challenges?
Keep on writing.
Jo Hawk The Writer